I thought I was being nice. Accommodating. Flexible.
Turns out, I was being a doormat.
Most people wouldn’t think of me as a “doormat” type of girl. I’m confident, I’m sassy, and I have informed opinions.
I also don’t want people to be mad at me, and therefore I tend to prioritize the happiness of others over my own.
This was totally in line with my Christian upbringing, which taught me that everybody else comes first. A popular church saying when I was growing up was, “JOY stands for Jesus, Others, You.” You come last.
Is that what God wants? Does He want us to erase ourselves in the name of being “good”?
I don’t think so. As Christian women, we are to put our relationship with the Lord first. We are to follow His lead. When you read about Jesus’ interactions with people, He gave out of His loving willingness to do so. But we are also told that he often withdrew to “lonely places” to pray. He did not change His plan based on other people’s desires.
Case in point: when...
But Only If You want a Good Relationship
By Mary R. Dittman, M.B.A.
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If you’re single and you’re over 40, you’ve probably been asked if (or told that) you’re too picky.
Like, you shouldn’t have any standards.  After all, you’re over 40 - you need to be more accepting because nobody’s perfect.
I find it interesting that when you go to the grocery store, you examine the produce because you don’t want to pick the tomatoes that are squished, or the apples that are bruised, or the lemons that are mildewy.Â
But, God forbid that you have standards for a relationship!
I was dating a guy and learned that he had been divorced 4 times and had declared personal bankruptcy twice.  I told one of my friends I was going to dump him, and her response was that I was too focused on money.
OK - broke in your 20’s, starting out with nothing and building something together is romantic.Â
Bankrupt in your 40’s with 4 divorces (FOUR!), 3 kids, child support, and no retirement ...
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